Confidence and Self-belief go hand in hand…

Confidence to know it’s time to make the change – Belief to know you can.

Confidence to take that First Step – Belief to know it will make a difference.

Confidence to keep going – Belief you will become your Truest, ever evolving Self.

I’m sure you can think of at least one example of having your confidence knocked back which in turn quashed your Self-Belief. I have no doubt at all it would have been unfounded and unwarranted.

It left a marked impression though, didn’t it? When we have no Confidence or Self-Belief, we cannot go head held high into our daily life and beyond.

Embrace the Journey to Confidence and Self-belief

When you embrace the journey to being confident and believing in yourself, even when you are faced with a challenging situation, you can confidently believe in yourself!

Being on the never-ending cycle of negative thought processes, it can be hard to switch those emotional suggestions towards the positive and at some point, you will perhaps reach burnout, overwhelm, sadness or even fear and the ability to move forward and experience happiness and joy in your every day will feel impossible.

Why do we end up in these patterns of negativity? Maybe in the past, you have been in a situation or have had something said to you that has triggered the thought process in your mind that you aren’t good enough, or not capable of achieving something, even when you gave it your all.

Perhaps you tried something new and didn’t succeed on your first try. There can be many reasons why confidence fades or belief in ourselves wanes. Our individual circumstances are unique, but lack of confidence and belief remains a constant familiarity for many of us.

When you take your First Steps as a child, you aren’t thinking “I can’t do this” you just instinctively give it a go and are mostly encouraged to do so, so why as adults, do we not have the same verve and tenacity to just do it? Because control, manipulation, fear, judgement, have all been imposed on us by this stage, far from the innocence in the time of our First Steps.

How can we take those first Steps once more?

So how can we take those first Steps once more? How can we go back to simply “giving it a go”?

I could delve deep into many mindset techniques, but for now, I will talk about just two that can be implemented right now!

Re-Framing

Firstly, Re-Framing is a powerful mindset strategy to bring about both confidence and Self-Belief.

How often do you talk to yourself like this; “What if I don’t get anything done today, what will everyone think of me?”

It’s a negative thought process, isn’t it? Constantly telling yourself “I should do this/that” but then for whatever reason not being able to do it – and it’s not always because of you – creates a feeling of not being good enough, you have no belief in yourself and then your confidence drops. You see the pattern here. But, trust me, if you don’t get the hoover round today, the world will NOT stop turning!

Re-frame it “What if, I don’t get that done, but I do complete this”.

Or

“What if I don’t get that done, but I look into how I might get help doing it?”

How may times have you had to attend a meeting for work and though “what if they all know more than me, what if I look silly”. Well, if you weren’t any good at your job, you wouldn’t be in it and you wouldn’t be asked to attend the meeting I the first place. You have been asked to attend because you have something to contribute, so be proud of that and YOU know your job, they don’t!

So why aren’t you going into that meeting believing in your abilities and confident you will be able to answer any questions that come your way? Fear of judgement, fear of looking silly? These are all negative patterns and emotions that have been as a result of your collective experiences over your life.

Re-frame it “What if I look silly and I don’t know the answer” to “If I don’t have the information to hand, I will say so and advise that I will look into it and get back to them at the earliest opportunity”.

We wouldn’t necessarily have every piece of information about everything we do with us in one moment so have the confidence to offer it when you can.

Remember, what other people think of you, is none of your business!

Celebrating YOU

Secondly, we also forget to celebrate just how much we HAVE achieved, accomplished, overcome, and have Self-belief to do, so remember to concentrate on what you are / have been confident at as well! Every day we are incredible, and confident in so many ways.

Perhaps you drive – remember how scary that was when you started? You cook dinner without thinking about it – how on earth did we get a roast to come together when we first did it? Maybe you hold together a household? Play a sport? Are true to your beliefs, even when you go against the majority? Run your own business? – they all take a LOT of confidence and Self-belief. You might be surprised at just how confident and amazing you actually already are?

When have confidence, we believe in ourselves, we believe we can do anything and whatever the outcome we confidently believe in taking that First Step towards doing it!

I’d love to know your thoughts, you can join the discussion, watch the Masterclass or DM me in our Facebook community, Empowered, Awakening Women,or if you want to take it further right now, and take your First Steps towards Confidence and Self-Belief, then join us on the “From Lost to Loving Life” Programme and do just that.